In leading and in parenting, I’ve come to see that influence isn’t built in one meeting or heartfelt chat.
It’s shaped by intentional rhythm. Formed through repetition and reflection.
Connection isn’t a moment.
It’s not just emotional or intuitive.
It’s a method. A practice. A leadership muscle.
I call the practice: RISE.
Sometimes I even ask my children, “Did you RISE at that event?”
Or I remind myself, “This is how I’ll RISE at that meeting.”
Here’s how I RISE:
Reflect: Tune into people’s context before reacting. What’s the story behind the behaviour? What’s not being said?
Iterate: What worked once may not work again. Adjust your tone, style, or questions.
Sustain: Connection isn’t about grand gestures. It’s about showing up—especially when energy is low.
Evaluate: Pause. Measure your presence. Is your message landing? Are your relationships evolving?
Whether in boardrooms or at the breakfast table, RISE reminds me that connection is not a one-off gesture—
It’s a leadership discipline.
📌 Presence, practiced over time, births real influence.
Given how quickly life and work moves and the need to constantly deliver, I find that my impatience often makes ‘iterate’ difficult to practice *covers face in shame*.
What part of RISE do you find hardest to apply consistently?